My COVID-19 Action Plan: How to Cope When the Virus Hits Home

By Sonja Bartolome, M.D. Internal Medicine
– Pulmonary Disease UT Southwestern Medical Center

 Special to The Truth

In a pandemic, even when you do everything right, viruses can still find a way into your home. As a respiratory specialist, I have lived in PPE for the better part of a year and made sure that my family has taken every precaution. I was also among the first health care workers to be vaccinated. So when my husband, Ivan, got COVID-19 this winter, it was a stark reminder of just how insidious and unpredictable the SARS-CoV-2 virus can be. Ivan didn’t have a mild case, either. He was sick with a fever and cough for two weeks straight. When I posted an update about Ivan’s condition to my social media, I was surprised how many people came out of the woodwork and said, “I had it, too!” or “My whole family caught it at the same time!” It was as if they felt ashamed of being infected by a novel coronavirus that has spread to nearly 29 million people in the U.S. They also seemed worried about being judged by others: What were you out doing?

Didn’t you wear a mask or wash your hands? Leading up to Ivan’s illness, we hadn’t really gone anywhere or done anything. We never went out in public without masks on and hand sanitizer in tow. But that’s what viruses do. They are always searching for an available host, even when we do our best to be careful. As we approach the one-year mark of living with COVID-19, we need to eliminate the stigma and shift our focus to controlling the controllables, particularly as new variants to the SARS-CoV-2 virus arise. The vaccines, while vital, don’t mean we can let our guard down. If someone in your immediate family becomes infected, there are steps you can take to reduce the risk and limit the spread at home. We developed an action plan when Ivan tested positive for COVID-19, and I wanted to share our experience in hopes it might help others.


When Ivan first started feeling sick, we thought it might be a cold or flu and not COVID-19. But just to be sure, we all got tested right away. My tests came back negative, and we were surprised when his were positive. More severe symptoms began shortly thereafter. My children and I got tested a second time just to be sure, and we were still negative. Testing helped us isolate him early, potentially sparing the rest of the family from infection. Explore UT Southwestern testing options.


Even before his test results came back, Ivan self-isolated at the first sign of symptoms. We’- re fortunate to have a bathroom off the master bedroom, which he was able to use through his two-week isolation. I took the spare room, main bathroom, and kitchen so I could bring him food throughout our time apart. I also worked from home, attending meetings and seeing patients via video conferences. Ivan and I set up a protocol. I’d mask up, and then knock. He’d put on his mask and move at least six feet from the door. I’d place his food on a side table, chat a bit, then leave so he could unmask and eat. When he was through, we’d repeat the process to clear away the dishes. Our master bedroom has an external door, so we could see him through the glass if we stood in the yard. We could Face Time, but it was difficult being apart for that long. I empathize with people who have had to deal with this situation throughout the pandemic with relatives in nursing homes and hospitals.


Keep people who have COVID-19 or symptoms in one area of the home and those who are well in another. We know families who live in their RVs. When one person got infected, that person stayed in a room at the back of the RV, leaving only to use the restroom (masked up, of course). The rest of the family stayed out of the person’s space, masked up, and used antiviral cleaners to wipe down the doorknobs, toilet handle, and faucets. No one else in the family got sick. Do your best in your environment. Keep at least six feet of distance between sick and well individuals for at least 14 days after a positive COVID-19 test and after they’ve been fever-free for 24 hours. Keeping them isolated behind a door is safest, but physical distance may suffice. Weather permitting; spend time outdoors at home as much as possible. The virus is more likely to spread in closed in spaces without much ventilation. Related reading: Tired of social distancing? Try NPIs on for size


Most of us don’t love wearing masks, but they make a difference. At work, I wear an N95 mask, face shield, gloves, gown, you name it. But at home, we wore simple surgical masks, and the virus did not spread to anyone else in our home. Some of the recently recorded COVID-19 variants appear to spread faster than the original SARS-CoV-2 virus, but they do not appear to cause more severe infections. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recently reiterated the importance of wearing a snug-fitting mask and even suggested wearing two masks, depending on the type, to further reduce the risk of exhaling or inhaling respiratory droplets.